Well done Tiny.
I too am prone to being on the beefy side. At my heaviest, I was just shy of 19st. When I was younger I mixed and spread concrete for a living, then when I left college I moved into IT and worked in an office, the weight went on quick!
I have lost 6st now over the last 4 years by sensible diet and exercise. I swim a mile (in the pool) 3-4 times a week before work in the normal way, but have done 5 mornings a week from new year and lost 1.5st in this period.
You can bbq and stay half way slim, it's all part of a balanced diet and healthy lifestyle. In fact, I have found the odd binge out on pulled pork and ribs actually helps with weight loss

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